U of I Memo Offers Help To Students

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This is a memo sent to students at the University of Idaho:

As you head into fall recess, it may be hard to turn your focus away from the events of this week. We are all keeping Xana Kernodle, Ethan Chapin, Kaylee Goncalves, Madison Mogen and their families in our hearts, thoughts and prayers.

 

I wanted to provide you with some information that may be of use over the coming days and weeks. Please feel free to share it with others who you believe may benefit from the resources outlined.

Vigil Update

The university will host a vigil for Xana, Ethan, Kaylee and Madison at 5 p.m. Wednesday, Nov. 30. The vigil will be on the Moscow campus with the final location to be determined at a later date as we monitor the forecast. Please continue to check your campus email for further details on the vigil and other important university communications.

Academic Experience After Thanksgiving

The academic leadership for the university has been discussing options for class participation after Thanksgiving break. You should receive a communication early next week about your options for the remainder of the semester.

Support for the Families

GoFundMe pages have been established for Xana, Ethan, Kaylee and Madison. You can show your support to the families through GoFundMe or donate to a charity of your choice in their name.

Counseling and Support Services Over Thanksgiving Break

Students can access counseling services over the break at the Counseling and Testing Center, Mary Forney Hall third floor, Monday-Wednesday, Nov. 21-23. The center will be closed Thursday-Sunday, Nov. 24-27, for the Thanksgiving recess, but will reopen Monday, Nov. 28. You can call the Counseling and Testing Center at 208-885-6716 to connect with a counselor and select option three in the evenings, weekends and over the holiday to talk with a counselor.

 

Even though students have traveled away from campus, remote Zoom meeting options are available. You do not need to be in person to connect with support.

 

Students from the Boise area can also receive support from the Boise State University Counseling Center through walk-in counseling Monday-Wednesday, Nov. 21-23. Call 208-426-1459 or visit the Norco Building, second floor (1529 Belmont St.) on the Boise State campus.

 

When classes resume Monday, Nov. 28, we will again have drop-in counseling sessions available from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m., Monday-Wednesday, Nov. 28 to Dec. 2, in the ISUB and all week at the Counseling and Testing Center.

 

The Office of the Dean of Students remains a resource for you. Call 208-885-6757 or file a VandalCARE report and you will receive a response.

How to Cope With What You Are Experiencing

What you are thinking and feeling as a result of this senseless act may be difficult to process. You may not know how to talk about or deal with what you are experiencing. Thus, we want to provide you with resources, beyond what has already been communicated, that may assist you in navigating the days and weeks ahead.

 

You are encouraged to reach out to friends, family, clergy and/or counselors who can provide support. In addition, below are additional resources compiled by the Counseling and Testing Center which also may be of benefit:

 

What Is Your Grief 

Grief & Homicide 

Ways to Support Someone Who Is Grieving 

How to Help a Grieving Friend  

Books

  • “Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief,” by Joanne Cacciatore
  • “Grieving Is Loving: Compassionate Words for Bearing the Unbearable,” by Joanne Cacciatore
  • “Good Grief: A Companion for Every Loss,” by Granger Westberg
  • “It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand,” by Megan Devine
  • “Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief,” by David Kessler
  • “The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss,” by Mary-Frances O’Connor
  • “Permission to Mourn: A New Way to do Grief,” by Tom Zuba

Podcasts 

How You Can Help

Anyone with information about this crime is asked to call 208-883-7180 or email tipline@ci.moscow.id.us.

 

Vandals, you are not alone. There is help and support for you. Make sure you are reaching out, using available resources and, more than anything, communicating your needs.

 

As we hold the families of Xana, Ethan, Kaylee and Madison in our hearts, I remind you that we are the Vandal Family and will go through this together.

 

I wish you and your families a warm and safe Thanksgiving.

Blaine Eckles

Dean of Students and Vice Provost for Student Affairs